IVF treatment has brought a new ray of hope for all those infertile couples struggling to make a baby of their own. Due to cultural diversities in different countries and differences in the set of mind, people do not immediately go for adoption. Instead, they try for their own genetically connected baby. IVF has opened a new path for all those couples to undergo infertility treatment and start their families that way.

IVF treatment includes different variations. Normally it involves the couples eggs and sperm and but the actuall fertilization process taakes plaace externally, in the laboratory. Once the eggs are fertilized and the embryos have developed, the are implanted in the intended mother’s uterus to develop pregnancy. The pregnancy initiated out of such implantation is further taken care of throughout the gestational period. The couple finally welcomes the child born out of the IVF treatment as the intended mother delivers the baby after successful completion of her pregnancy period.

However, this is the most common and simple way of IVF.There are many other elements related to this. In case the mother’s eggs fail to get fertilized by the sperm even after repeated attempts, IVF consultants usually go for an egg donor. Egg donation is a popular element of IVF treatment. This is a good solution for all those intended parents, who have failed to achieve fertile eggs even after stimulation and treatment. Almost every fertility clinic has their own list of egg donors who work with them. These people donate their eggs to the intended parents so that they can use it for their IVF cycle. Introduction of egg donation in this treatment has helped many couples to achieve pregnancy. This has reduced the time taken in fertilization and formation of the embryo. Apart from the time saving, egg donation has also reduced the cost involved in the entire cycle of the IVF treatment. In case the intended parents have failed to get fertile eggs in repeated attempts of ovarian stimulation, they might get discouraged or frustrated due to the money involved in it. Egg donation saves them from all these complications and they can easily proceed towards the formation of the embryo.

Egg donors offer a divine service to the intended parents. They work silently with the IVF centers and provide eggs for various IVF cycles. They go through a thourough medical procedure to produce eggs of the highest quality for the intended parents. So, we can easily understand the divine sacrifice that they do for the intended parents.

We have experienced several occasions where the intended parents wish to meet the egg donors who have helped them get the quality egg. But most egg donors chose to remain out of the limelight and do not wish to disclose their identity to the intended parents. On several occasions, we have met intended parents who have requested an interview before deciding on an egg donor. They find it easier to select their egg donors from the ones they meet. However, it is not ethical to demand such meetings, as the egg donor might not be in a situation to reveal her identity. She might be under personal pressure to work as an egg donor without letting her family know about it. This is when the intended parents must respect the egg donor’s privacy and her contract with the IVF clinic.

Apart from meeting the egg donor before borrowing eggs from her, we have also noticed parents who request the egg donors to be in touch after the child’s birth. As we have stated earlier, most egg donors work in a very private manner and reference themselves from involving with the intended parent. Mostly the egg donors work in their younger ages and opt for a family life after that. They do not want to remain attached to the family they have donated their eggs to. There are various social and cultural reasons related to such decision. Women choosing careers as egg donors in their younger days may not continue in future. She can choose to serve for a single time and not become a regular donor. As a matter of fact, egg donors go through a series of hormone injections to produce the best quality eggs. This is one major reason why she might not choose to continue with the same profession.

There are reasons that she chooses to keep this as a secret from her family afterward. Hence it is also the intended parent’s responsibility to respect the egg donor’s privacy and not request her to stay in touch after the baby’s birth. We can understand the gratitude that the intended parents have for the egg Donor that should not be the reason for any alarm in the egg donor’s life. It is not ethical to request her in any ways to remain in touch with the intended parent’s family after the child’s birth. The egg donor has had done a noble service for the intended couples who have been struggling with infertility. Her Noble action has today made it possible for the intended parents to become real parents. So, it is a mutual responsibility of both the egg donor and the intended couple to respect each other’s privacy. Neither the egg donor should have any demand on the intended parents after her donation service is over, the intended parents should also have any desire left from the egg donor after she has donated her it to them.

We have come across many cases for the egg donor do not continue with egg donation anymore and choose a family life with a different profession. In fact, as a thumb rule, women only in their younger ages can work as egg donors. This is the time when their bodies are at the best stage to produce quality eggs. Going forward they usually do not continue as an Egg Donor, proceed in their individual lives. She has to explain a lot to her family call her and children if the intended parents pressurize her to be in touch with them after the baby’s birth. This is why we usually counsel our intended parents to not create any such pressure on the egg donors and do not try to establish any sort of communication with them in future.

If the egg donor has no problem in meeting the baby later, then the parents can ask her to be with them at times. But in most cases, the situation is not the same. Egg donors mostly chose to stay out of any emotional involvement with the family or the baby. Various social and cultural reasons work behind this. We always make sure that our intended parents do not claim any undue services from the egg donors in future. We do not want our egg donors to regret their divine decision ever of helping an infertile couple to become parents in real life.